Oh,,,, that breeze.... I could sing and dance and shout and start ALL OVER AGAIN!!!!! We have a homestudy that is approved for girls up to the age of 14!!!!!! What a different experience. We met our new Social Worker (SW) this morning from our new homestudy agency here in MA and she was a GEM. An immigrant herself, who has been doing adoptions for 30 + years. She chatted with us, checked out our home, (loved our Saige girl) and thought we were warm and wonderful people and enjoyed her time with us! Likewise, we enjoyed her. It was a mutual discussion about who we are and what we have expereinced and she thought we were "clinically fine" for older children. She is going to work fast to get our report done with our increase in age, and we have sent out our request to our former agency to release our file to the new agency and to the state for background checks. When these checks are done, we can complete a supplement to our USCIS (immigration) paperwork to get approved for the older girls and then move forward with Peru and request the 2 girls (sisters) that we hoping to pursue. Once we are matched with them, we have to apply for their VISAS and as soon as we recieve what is called an article 5 we will travel just days later. Oh my heart is DANCING, my soul is weeping tears of JOY, and I can hardly wait to hug my daughters! The barriers have been removed and the TEAM is TOGETHER!
All I want for CHRISTMAS is my 2 peruvian princess! I BELIEVE in MIRACLES............
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Monday, October 4, 2010
When You Can Not Explain
From the beginning of the adoption journey, we were made AWARE, CLEAR, REMINDED, QUESTIONED, CORNERED, and asked to clarify a second and third time of our intentions "because we were considered a minority" by our homestudy agency here in Massachusetts.
Adoption is often a way for couples with fertility issues to build a family or to add to a family after having biological children. It is not considered "typical" to choose to adopt prior to having biological children, nor is it "typical" to desire to adopt older children. We never thought of ourselves as atypical, different, special, or politically correct. We had no idea, that our RESPONSE to caring for the least of these and most vulnerable not making clinical sense to a social worker (SW) would cause such difficulty in our adoption process.
We have been told older children have too many problem, too many psychological issues, and our homestudy SW abandoned us 5 months after completing our visits, in hope that we would go away or change our minds. We both called the office, no return calls, we both wrote emails, no return emails, we were told the agency server crashed a couple of times although we got read receipts months later.
Thankfully,we have our adoption agency in AL who has been present for the whole journey and supports our desire. Additionally we have a Clinical Psychologist who believes we have a good understanding of what we are about to undertake and he has been gracious to us in our multiple requests to write reports and support our requests.
We are not adopting to have a white picket fence family. We do not desire 2.5 children. We UNDERSTAND older girls chances of being adopted are SIGNIFICANTLY decreased, decreased due to age or being in a sibling group with a sibling that was "too old" Our hearts burn for these girls. They are the PRIME to be victims when they age out of the orphanges to be led into human trafficking. A life of slavery and sex. NO ONE DESERVES this LIFE!!! NO ONE!!!! And WE WILL DO OUR part to offer hope and healing to older girls, despite being minorities, despite our age and despite that life *may* not be easy.
Adoption is often a way for couples with fertility issues to build a family or to add to a family after having biological children. It is not considered "typical" to choose to adopt prior to having biological children, nor is it "typical" to desire to adopt older children. We never thought of ourselves as atypical, different, special, or politically correct. We had no idea, that our RESPONSE to caring for the least of these and most vulnerable not making clinical sense to a social worker (SW) would cause such difficulty in our adoption process.
We have been told older children have too many problem, too many psychological issues, and our homestudy SW abandoned us 5 months after completing our visits, in hope that we would go away or change our minds. We both called the office, no return calls, we both wrote emails, no return emails, we were told the agency server crashed a couple of times although we got read receipts months later.
Thankfully,we have our adoption agency in AL who has been present for the whole journey and supports our desire. Additionally we have a Clinical Psychologist who believes we have a good understanding of what we are about to undertake and he has been gracious to us in our multiple requests to write reports and support our requests.
We are not adopting to have a white picket fence family. We do not desire 2.5 children. We UNDERSTAND older girls chances of being adopted are SIGNIFICANTLY decreased, decreased due to age or being in a sibling group with a sibling that was "too old" Our hearts burn for these girls. They are the PRIME to be victims when they age out of the orphanges to be led into human trafficking. A life of slavery and sex. NO ONE DESERVES this LIFE!!! NO ONE!!!! And WE WILL DO OUR part to offer hope and healing to older girls, despite being minorities, despite our age and despite that life *may* not be easy.
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