Monday, November 29, 2010

Check, Check, AND Check!

When does the paper chase end and you board a plane?  I thought I would answer

We were matched with our daughters!!!! 

First question.....,  when do you leave?  Well first we.....

discovered this news on the Peru website so

we needed to wait for the official SIGNED letter from the Minister of Adoption (translated) CHECK

then we had to send our letter of acceptance to the Minister of Adoption (needed to be translated before giving it to him) CHECK

We needed to complete individual VISA applications for both girls and send to our adoption agency in AL. CHECK

agency needed to translate specific documents from the file to send to the Lock box with our file.  CHECK

file overnight(ed) to the Lock box in TX.  CHECK

File processed at the lockbox & sent to the NBC
File received and reviewed at the NBC
File sent to US Embassy in Peru
Embassy generates invite to travel........ WE FLY!!!!!!

Families have traveled in as little as 4-5 weeks from referral date, while our agency is reporting it can take 2-3 months.  We have advocated that any detail outside of the USCIS must be completed ASAP.  i.e.  Visa applications, sending acceptance letter. translated documents......


So today, I found the luggage set of choice!!!!  COST & COLOR!  I was (have been keeping my eye out) shopping for the best deal.... I REALLY wanted ORANGE (the color of FREEDOM) but I was not willing to pay for the ideal color....  I walked into TJMAXX and found both! 


                                             WE ARE READY TO FLY~!!!!!

Saturday, November 27, 2010

PLAN A

On second thought, an overdue post!
(CAUTION: direct, honest, perhaps scattered, and my first hand experiences of how BIG God truly is!)

Reflection is a beautiful opportunity and as I reflect on this journey called life I am AMAZED at the details and the preparation of my own thoughts, needs, desires and how I believe God has prepared me for our children.
I am was a planner, a preparer, a plan A, B and heck plan C kind of girl.  I still plan ahead and prepare, but not like I use to, you see it was just a false sense of security I carried around that misled me into believing I had all kinds of control of my life.  Now don’t get me wrong, I believe I have a lot, but not to the degree I once perceived and in the end brought great sorrow when plan C failed.

I had my life planned out, including graduating from college, grad school, marriage, start a family, and just how that would all look…. Well I graduated, no male interest or should I say, no male had an interest in me.  Time past, in fact years past and I was a great female friend to many males, all platonic of course.  I desperately wanted a baby and the time line I had for marriage and the birth of my first child had come and gone.  I began to ponder in my usual way of processing and one of question that I revisited several times was what is the absolute worst thing that could happen to me if I do not physically carry and give birth to a child?  The answer, I would not have what I wanted or desired and I would be sad, but it would not define me or change me.  So I grieved the idea of never giving birth and eventually experienced peace with letting go of the angst I felt by not meeting my biological loudly clicking clock.
Moving on in time, and VERY single, I met Ben.  He approached me at the 11th hour at a wedding.  The initial light conversation began, what do you do for work?  I explained I had just started working with juvenile delinquents, but had been working with families in therapeutic foster care and adoption.  Light conversation quickly turned into a passionate conversation about our shared passion for the oppressed and the orphan crisis and both of our desires to adopt.  The conversation did not end that night…….. We got married and planned to wait a year before starting a family.  I began researching adoption (domestic vs international, countries, needs, etc) and it became very clear that ADOPTION was our PLAN A. We began the process on our one year anniversary.

Surprisingly enough the second guessing and angst began with our first home study visit.  WHY? Fair question.  We presented our sincere and honest reasons and our social worker quickly exclaimed, “You know you are minorities!” Well, we had not thought of it that way, but if you must label us or package us to move forward, then so be it.  She explained, adoption is Plan B and is typically for couples with fertility issues as a way to grow their families, and an after- thought for families with biological children. To further place is in the minority,  adopting families typically want babies or the very youngest child coming home from the country of choice. Our response was, we're the minority? So what?  We were not thinking in terms of most, better, best, we instead feel compelled to parent children whom statistics loudly proclaim are less likely to be placed in families.  In fact, we understood how most families choose a country and we were thrilled to have found a program specializing in placing sibling groups and older children.


That was the beginning of others beliefs about what was best for our family along with sadness that people simply assumed we had fertility issues, which we don't.  These thinking errors and pleasantries exchanged based on people’s own thoughts, feelings and desires are too raw to ignore.  I am ALL about EDUCATION and AWARENESS.  My heart feels as though it is leaping out of chest with LOVE for my two older daughters!  I NEVER IMAGINED the LOVE I could experience for these precious girls born in my heart! We are elated to have been matched with an almost 12 and a 8 year old.  We know that it may not be a walk in the park, no parent has the guarantee that their biological child(ren) or adopted young child will not have challenges.  We are aware that this journey is full of unknowns, life is full of unknowns, and these two girls have great worth and we WILL NOT walk in fear.  Our faith in God offers us the comfort and the reassurance that God will equip us emotionally, physically and spiritually as needed. As we look at the girl's history, we believe that God destined them for our family many years ago and now realize that, without knowing it, we have advocated for these two specific girls since the first home study meeting. In fact we changed homestudy agencies to INCREASE our age as our initial agency could not make sense of our Plan A despite recommendations from our adoption agency, our highly qualified psychologist, Peru's request for us to increase our age based on our file and our unwavering commitment.  REMEMBER, we chose our adoption agency based on their commitment to older children and sibling groups.

So, PLEASE consider the next time you hear a family adopting (without biological children) that it may be that their plan A, that trying to fit children into their existing families based on all the criteria, that they may desire to be a family to children home just as they are (this is how God brings us to Him) and meet their needs and not eliminate them based on existing family situations that do not meet Hague or adoption agency criteria.

Please know that we initially desired to keep our choice of adoption as Plan A private, as not to draw attention to ourselves or appear to be making a judgement on others who view it as a plan B.  HOWEVER, some of the responses we've heard from folks has caused us to re-evaluate our privacy on the lack of fertility issues and and instead has caused us to want to share our passion to DEFEND the cause of the orphan..... OLDER ORPHANS particularly.  We WELCOME you to share in our JOY.... there is NO sorrow.



Thursday, November 25, 2010

WoW---- We are PARENTS!!!

We are parents!  I am at a loss for words!  After nearly 2 years on this journey, we were matched at the Consejo on Tuesday, Nov 23rd.  It was confirmed by posting on the Peru website yesterday morning.  The hours of waiting past 6 pm on Tuesday were difficult to say the least.  Two years of emotions "pent up" and after switching gears to CELEBRATE the great news...... that did not come when anticipated, well, in great AUTHENTIC fashion, I was having a difficult time being with myself! 

I got up at 3 am and checked no news.... I got up in the morning and did not check, but when I heard Ben yell, BABE, BABE, the page has been updated.  I ran to him in bed and we scrolled down to the very last posting and together saw, H168, Lifeline, USA COUPLE.... my heart jumped from my chest and we just held each other tight in celebration! WE ARE PARENTS!!!!

Thank you to ALL who have prayed, inquired, listened to us, and followed our journey! It has only just begun.  Our desire to be with them for Christmas in Peru is strong and we appreciate all the prayers that this 5 stop/step VISA process happens.... IT IS POSSIBLE!!!!!! 

HAPPY THANKSGIVING, LOVE Ben, Tracy, Julissa & Johanna

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

November 17th 2007

It was exactly 5 years ago today that Ben and I "met up" for the first time after a number of email exchanges.  We met at a wedding at the beginning of October and when I left the wedding with friends I said, "if I ever get married, I just met the man!" 


As we celebrated 3 years today, we have so much to thankful for.  It has been a wild ride and we are certain we are works in progress!  Choosing to LOVE another human being every day, is a CHOICE that can not rely on feelings, what the other has or has not done, or what one will get out of it!  Our LOVE story has so many beautiful moments and at times it has felt like just as many difficult ones. What we realize is that every good love story has its highs and lows and the best love stories are those where the plots are laden with tragedy and heartache and miraculously overcome. 

I remember seeing Ben from the beginning of the isle and I did not even wait for the cue on the song, I just HAULED my dad down the isle.  It was the most AMAZING moment.



When we met what we quickly discovered is that we both had hearts for orphans and an absolute desire to adopt.  Two years ago on our anniversary we were thrilled to have made it to the one year mark where we met the minimal requirement for marriage to adopt.  The journey began to find the agency we wanted to work with.  What we soon discovered was that we needed to determine the country to determine the agency, and this is where our journey to our daughters began.

Our journey to our girls is really a Love Story, filled with great moments and many difficult moments.  What we have come to appreciate is that these parallel Love Stories have reached low points so painful we could not find words to describe, but through it all we had each other and we have learned what love looks like on the mountain tops and in the valleys and slowly we are learning more and more what it means to love unconditionally and to trust and the beauty that results.



So today on our 3 years of marriage we are on a mountain top, both of our love stories are in sync and it is there that we celebrate today that our Immigration approval was overnighted to our agency and will make it to Peru for the next consejo on Tuesday.  We are so excited to meet our daughters and join our love stories as we build on the highs and lows of the past 3 years, and as we begin the journey of helping our girls heal and experience UNCONDITIONAL LOVE & ACCEPTANCE! 

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

LOCK BOX MUSIC

So excited to share that our immigration update reached the Lock box on Oct 29th and was processed on November 2nd.  Today we heard that it was in the hands of our assigned officer and is expected to leave her hands on Friday to US!!!!

We are holding on to our faith and God is showing up BIG!  Paperwork is currently taking 3 weeks to be processed and sent to assigned immigration officers!  We have lots of people praying for November 23rd  for us to be officially matched with our daughters!  We are already praying that God will find favor with our family and that our paperwork for the girls VISAS would also be processed in record time and we would be untied with our girls by Christmas!

What a great way to celebrate Christmas.

Saturday, November 6, 2010

November is Adoption Month



November is Adoption Month, tomorrow is Orphan Sunday.  My dear friend Paige came home from Peru with her daughter on November 1st.  What a way to bring in the month, EMMA NACHTIGAL.... Welcome home little one!

 I waited up every night to read Paige's blog while she was in country.  Paige and I have journeyed the last six months of the process, with passion, intensity, and advocacy.  Although we have never met our hearts were connected by our longing do be united with our Peruvian Princesses.  Following along each day was a blessing to me, somehow I felt connected to my girls in a new way.....  Thank you friend!

It is in November that we are hopeful that we will be OFFICIALLY matched with our daughters, one month shy of 2 years, when we began our journey to bring our Peruvian princesses home!  As of late, I have been a little more emotional, a little more sensitive and ALOT more READY!!!

We have a picture of each of the girls (sisters) we have information on who they are and where they have been.  We have faces and facts about the journey our girls have been on.  I will not share their stories publicly, it is their story to share when they are ready if they so choose.  What I will share is that the intensity of the desire to be united with them is at times OVERWHELMING!  The holidays are fast approaching and families are making plans to travel to see 'family'... sharing calendars to pick the best date to spend time as a 'family'.....  soon the complaining will begin about the hustle and bustle as people get lost in the details of preparing.... As for Ben and I, we are preparing and hoping that we will be with our daughters on Christmas.  
 As  you begin your planning and preparation to spend time with your perspective families, let me caution you not to get lost in the details, but to enjoy the anticipation.  Think of what these children would do to have a family to call their own... 


Thursday, November 4, 2010

Taking Steps Closer

As we count down WAIT, for the days to pass until the next consejo (matching meeting) I have started travel preparations and completing J & J's bedroom.  Washing mattress pads and sheets, a few more purchases to personalize our home for their arrival.  Although the bunk beds have been up for the last 11 months, we only had the comforters covering the new mattresses.

I have sharpened my coupon/sales shopping skills and have been picking up travel supplies, as well as games and activities for the girls while we are in country.  It helps to fill the waiting for the official matching date with preparation. 


I have gone as far as replenishing our two First Aid kits, one for the family car and one for the trip.  I giggled at myself as I consider every last detail and thought to myself, is this a sign of a first time mom?  MAYBE!!!  That's ok!

We are hoping and praying to be with our Peruvian Princesses on Christmas..... in Peru, but with them in Peru! 
I also have a "shopping cart" waiting online, with items for the girls, to make party bags for their goodbye party at the orphanage..... I just have to click...... CHECKOUT on November 23rd.  
Stay tuned... things are a happening!!!!!  Please be praying for the movement of papers... as a friend of mine prayed.... God PLEASE Fed Ex these papers... I'm with her.













Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Moving Forward

So I have decided to move forward and risk my heart because to love is to be vulnerable and I LOVE our girls.  I have been using my couponing skills to begin creating a care package for my girls and for our trip to Peru.  All those things you end up needing that nickle and dime you and break you!  Well, not us.... I am finding deals and making the most of coupons and store rewards to stretch each buck.  So exciting I have a litle box for each of my girls started.  The contents.... hait ties and bands, crazy bracelets, bubbles, and gum.  I rearranged the bathroom closet and added 2 containers and LABELED one for each of my girls WITH THEIR names.   I even went to oriental trading company online and started a basket for party bags for the good bye party when we take our princesses back to the orphanage one last time to say goodbye and sign the last document there.  I figure I will bring the bags of "stuff" and the girls can esemble them for the children who they have spent the last 5+ years with.  

We have some really AWESOME people praying for the remainder of this process.  The desire of our hearts is to be with our girls for Christmas, even in Peru!   This will require paperwork to be processed in record times so that we will be able given the go ahead to travel.  WE are believing this can happen!

What will I do next???