I began this blog with the desire and intention to blog
honestly about the highs, the lows, the unknowns, and the unbelievable of the
journey of adoption. I wanted to share
what I often found lacking in blogs.
HONESTY! What to really expect,
that it is not a happily ever after fairy tale.
That adoption is a result of great pain and loss from a first family/
birth family. Rather a young mom, an impoverished family, abuse and or neglect that
leads to an adoption plan being made, it begins with loss. Adoption is about redemption and that loss
does not define any child/person.
My desire was/is to protect the privacy of each of our daughters
stories, sharing that while hard, difficult, or overwhelming the journey may
be at times, the growth, the healing, the blossoming of a child is such a
privilege to share in.
Well, I got stuck. I
did not want to share one child’s journey that is one of struggle and
resistance. I did not NOT want to share
another child’s story of thriving, growing, loving, and trusting.
The unintended outcome… no blogging only occasional status
updates sharing glimpses of great joy with our friends on Facebook. Loving our children on each of their healing
journeys looks very different. The needs are vastly different and we are
respecting the privacy of the difficulties of adjusting to life in a family.
It has been very clear to me that as we share our triumphs
and joy and photos of one, we say nothing about the other. One loves pictures while the other will not
allow pictures. It is unsettling not to
share. I will say we are fighting for
our daughter. We are doing everything we
can in our human power and with much prayer as we continue on this healing
journey. We are holding onto HOPE that
the One who created our daughter in the womb and knows her by name, knows all
of her pain, is faithful. That she will
one day know her value, that our fight for her is just a glimmer of God’s love
for her. She is a talented girl full of
potential and we will continue to navigate with her and for her. She is NOT forgotten.
