Sunday, January 29, 2012

Where Have We Been?



I began this blog with the desire and intention to blog honestly about the highs, the lows, the unknowns, and the unbelievable of the journey of adoption.  I wanted to share what I often found lacking in blogs.  HONESTY!  What to really expect, that it is not a happily ever after fairy tale.  That adoption is a result of great pain and loss from a first family/ birth family. Rather a young mom, an impoverished family, abuse and or neglect that leads to an adoption plan being made, it begins with loss.  Adoption is about redemption and that loss does not define any child/person.
My desire was/is to protect the privacy of each of our daughters stories, sharing that while hard, difficult, or overwhelming the journey may be at times, the growth, the healing, the blossoming of a child is such a privilege to share in.
Well, I got stuck.  I did not want to share one child’s journey that is one of struggle and resistance. I did not  NOT want to share another child’s story of thriving, growing, loving, and trusting. 
The unintended outcome… no blogging only occasional status updates sharing glimpses of great joy with our friends on Facebook.  Loving our children on each of their healing journeys looks very different. The needs are vastly different and we are respecting the privacy of the difficulties of adjusting to life in a family.
It has been very clear to me that as we share our triumphs and joy and photos of one, we say nothing about the other.  One loves pictures while the other will not allow pictures.  It is unsettling not to share.  I will say we are fighting for our daughter.  We are doing everything we can in our human power and with much prayer as we continue on this healing journey.  We are holding onto HOPE that the One who created our daughter in the womb and knows her by name, knows all of her pain, is faithful.  That she will one day know her value, that our fight for her is just a glimmer of God’s love for her.  She is a talented girl full of potential and we will continue to navigate with her and for her.  She is NOT forgotten.