Today was the second date we were anticipating as the day we would FINALLY meet our daughters. Not a whole lot to say. IT.DID.NOT.HAPPEN!
Sad. Numb. Angry. Tired, make that EXHAUSTED, all feelings and emotions I have experienced! I am not giving up. I am not apathetic toward my daughters, just parts of the process. In fact our daughters have been an AMAZING encouragement to me in the process/waiting.
This week has been emotionally and spiritually challenging. Another disappointment with the delay of being united with our daughters and the challenge of fully evaluating where I put my trust, where I put my hope, and how do I react when the outcome is not what I had desired/expected.
I have been disappointed by many people on this journey. I had expectations that others would join us on this journey and hang on for dear life. I believed that paying lots of money for services would yield a positive outcome. I dreamed of being with our daughters for Christmas. I hoped for things others were not capable of delivering. I believed. I hoped. I dreamed. I expected. What do I know about these things? That when the outcome is not delivered, it equals GRIEF. The natural and normal reaction to loss of ANY kind. No wonder I have experienced sadness, numbing, anger, fatigue and EXHAUSTION...... all words that grieving people experience.
This week has been rough, but I have sought to find the diamond in the rough. That diamond is HOPE. I have been side tracked by placing my hope in humans, who ultimately fail us, including myself. I have placed my hope in agencies to get the job done. Not too much to ask, right? Wrong! If this was true I would not be grieving a different, better, more. Being in relationships, rather it is family, friends, churches or agencies equals expectations. Any time there is a relationship there is an expectation and I lost sight, at times along the way, of the only One that will NOT fail me. I have repeatedly been disappointed in this process by my own hopes, dreams and expectations. However, as I reflect on this journey, the one constant, the one thing that I have clung to, the only way I could experience peace and joy, has been my HOPE in my Creator. The One that knit me in my mothers womb with purpose and plans.
When the going got tough, I cried out and He carried me through the unknowns. He faithfully met my/our every need . From connecting with others who were adopting, adopting from Peru, to strangers reaching out to us, all the way from Lima, Peru. to finding community (through an orphan) when we were barely hanging on. We were matched with our daughters, the ultimate goal of this journey, and the journey has brought about great growth. These needs were great and God knew what I/we needed and He provided in UNBELIEVABLE ways. But at times when the disappointments came, I held back, I took back the hope I had placed in Him, like He owed me one, like I was keeping score, like I was asking Him to prove himself once more, before I would grant Him the right to be the One to care for me. What I see now is that as I held back and took back, I cheated myself. I am done with the cheating, I am done with the disappointment, I am done with the take backs, I am done with the holding out on the One who has provided for our every need on this journey to our daughters. 2011 is the year. I am saying, YES I BELIEVE God that You can do this. That you can care for me, my HOPE is in YOU and YOU alone and I am not looking back!